Words Hurt and They Don’t Go Away

The other day I was going through my Social Media and I ran across someone’s post of words of encouragement and support. I looked at the photo and remembered the times that person put me down and I thought “Yeah right!”

Seeing that post from that person made me remember all of the discouraging things people have said to me, “Oh yeah You won’t take it anymore because it’s too hard huh?”, Or “I hurt you? Use that hurt to make yourself stronger” or words like “You’re just like this person I can’t take it” or “Oh you guys are going out? He asked me first but I said no, I’m happy for you though,” or “I feel sorry for you, I really do.”

Most of these words came from people I used to be super close with. It was like they knew all my weakness and used it against me in one blow. After these words were spoken I never really reached out to them again. I thought, “I’m over it, I’m just never going to talk to them ever again and life will be a bliss.” No no no, that is not what happened. I never worked through them. I simply just eliminated the person but not the problem!

The problem is that I let people affect me. I let their words run through me like it’s meant to flow inside me. It lingers on me, I once had a boyfriend who broke up with me because his friend thought “she’s not popular enough”! Do you know how long and how many times I brought that up to people! (HAHA) Too many dang times!

Who cares if people think you aren’t good enough? Who cares if they think you aren’t strong enough? Who cares if they think you are weak?

The thing is, I need,to remind myself, these people said those things about me because it was more of a reflection of how they saw themselves. They wanted to make themselves feel better by pointing out what they thought was true about me. They probably didn’t even know what they said and I’ve probably done this too.

I just wanted to make sure that I am not taking them too personally anymore. I wanted to make sure that if I see them in person or their post on social media, I would think “GOOD for them” instead of being bitter.

I wanted to release myself from their judgment and so here I am being more open about them and letting people know that words hurt and it stays with people!

I’ll do my part too. I’ll do my best to say only nice things. To say only encouraging things and see that the words I say and the negative thoughts I have of others are most likely a reflection of what I feel inside. I need to let that shit go! lol

So If you recognize these things on here, Dude, I forgive you and I hope you forgive me too! BUT most importantly forgive yourself, forgive them and stop being bitter. That is what I’m working through now.

Words can stay with you if you don’t decide to let it go! 

Love always,

Pia

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Fundraising Blues During a World Pandemic….

I am not used to doing things like this. I’ve always wanted to do things like this. Things like fundraising and trying to make a difference somehow.
I decided I’ll do fundraising, bravely thinking this is easy peasy! But you know, it is harder than I thought.
 
It is already so hard to put myself out there, to tell people about why I’m doing this, what I’m doing it for and all the vulnerability aspects that comes along with fundraising. I now have to do this fundraising during a world crisis, a pandemic. We don’t know what will happen. I’ve experienced Hurricane’s here in Jax and you know as soon as the storm passes we return back to our normal lives in just a couple of days sometimes even the next day. This time it’s a bit different we don’t know what the future holds. I’m sure things will return back to normal soon enough. 
So do you have any ideas of fundraising during this unique times (as my friend had called it.)? I like that term, “unique times”, it makes the situation a little lighter than how it has been for the past couple of days. Social Media has created so much anxiety for me and I’m sure for everyone else around the world. It’s important to take breaks from Social Media from time to time.
Anyways, here I am attempting to be more open about myself and what I’m feeling and what I’m trying to accomplish on this crazy crazy time! I’ll look into different ways to raise money during this time.
Sorry, I do not have any answers YET! Am I alone in this situation right now? I’m looking for some people who are on the same boat as me so that we could brainstorm together in finding out different ways to go about this! 🙂 <3
Nothing but love, please! I could wait until all is well to fundraise but my cause means so much to me and my goal is just as big too. I don’t want to break a promise even knowing that they would understand. I want to know in my heart that I did my best and that I at least made an effort to do something about it.
If you’re interested in knowing more about my fundraising, please don’t hesitate to visit my gofundme charity page.
All, thank you so much for everrrrythinggg!
Your truly,
Pia

Aktiv Against Cancer Fundraising <3

Hello My Fellow Bloggers!

How is everyone doing?

I’m reaching out to you today because I wanted to let you all know that I am fundraising for a charity to run the NYC Marathon this year.

I wanted to get back on raising the money and fulfilling a goal, a commitment that I set for myself this year. I promised Aktiv Against Cancer that I will start a fundraiser to run for their cause this year and I am determined to accomplish that goal and fulfill that promise.

I know that we are all going through some tough times this year. This post is in no way taking away magnitude of all the horrifying events this past weeks and months. This post is just my attempt to keep on going. My attempt to see the light in the tunnel because after all this, we must continue on. We must rise up and keep going!

So I hope that you continue to live a normal life as much as possible amidst this pandemic. I hope you follow the protocols that are being in place to flatten the curve. I hope you work hard for yourself and others to stay healthy and active. I hope that you understand the severity of what is happening around the world. I hope and pray that we all get through this sooner than later.

I hope that you find comfort and solace in knowing that we are all in this together. We are all experiencing fear, anxiety and uncertainties. But none the less we will persevere!

I decided that I will try to keep on fundraising for a great cause, Aktiv Against Cancer.  Their cause is to make sure that exercise is part of the treatment for Cancer. They are the first foundation to do research in establishing the importance of exercise in fighting against Cancer. Yes, we are battling a virus in the moment but many of us have been fighting against cancer for a while, may it be for yourself, your family and for your friends. Cancer has been prevalent in my family these past years. I have aunties and uncles who went through this (are still going through this). They keep on fighting.

They inspire me. I wanted to show them my support by doing something I love while supporting a cause that relates to the battle they’ve been fighting so hard for.

So please support this cause not just for me but for my family, my friends and for the future that lies ahead of us.

https://charity.gofundme.com/o/en/campaign/aktiv-against-cancer-2020-tcs-new-york-city-marathon/mariacaguimbal

I’m ok with who I am!

I’m ok with who I am!

Repeat after me: I’m ok with who I am! 10x

My friends, it’s time! It’s time for us to stop comparing, to stop wanting something to be something else! It’s time for us to be happy with who we are now.

I was listening to Joel Osteen’s podcast, Be Comfortable With Who You Are , he talked about running your own race.. being able to celebrate others without feeling like you have to catch up… he told a story about how he focused so much on passing someone while on a run he didn’t realized he was 6 blocks away from his house! That’s what happens when you focus on other people’s race. You make it longer for you to reach your destination.

The podcast inspired me to write about being happy with who we are!

• Do you not feel happy with who you are?

• Do you find yourself always wanting to change?

• Do you find yourself always comparing yourself and your journey from others?

Well, if your answer is yes to any of the questions above, you need to stop it! Stop it already!

God created us to be exactly who we are.

Everyone was created to fulfill a purpose that is different for everyone! No one is ever more special than you to God. We are all equal in his eyes. He doesn’t care if you make the most money or if you have all the degrees in the world! He only cares about how and what you do with your life’s purpose.

The more you love yourself the more you open yourself up to God’s purpose for you!

Remind yourself everyday to Love every single bit of you, from your body to your mind and to your soul & spirit! It’s you, it’s always been you!

You don’t have to be the skinniest or the fastest, the smartest or the prettiest! What matters is what’s in your heart and that you be the best you you can ever be.

A heart filled with love will be much more beneficial for you than a heart filled with discontent.

Everyday, every minute repeat the mantra: I am ok with who I am!

Every time doubt cripples in: I am ok with who I am!

Every time you feel behind: I am ok with who I am!

Every time someone mocks you, disrespects you: I am ok with who I am!

Keep that in mind: I am ok with who I am!

What’s for you will be for you! You just have to love YOU and let the rest flow naturally!

xoxo

@piawiaventures!

I’m ok with who I am! I’m ok with who I am!
Once we accept ourselves unconditionally, no matter where we are, it will feel like home. Self Love

Reference:

Joel Osteen, Podcast “Be Comfortable With Who You Are”

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/joel-osteen-podcast/id137254859?i=1000444682756

Melody Beatle, Journey to the Heart, Daily Meditation on the Path to Freeing Your Soul

Marathon Training – Week 6 #roadtoberlinmarathon2019

Ahhhhhhhh!!! Week 6 got me beat! This week has been super tough for my training/running. 

Sunday Morning, the first day of my week 6, I set out to run 4 miles. I started a little bit later than usual, I had a hard time waking up. Maybe my body was tired and for some reason I was not mentally prepared. (Week 5 was too good, lol) So I went out there in the middle of the blazing sun and decided to go for my 4 miles. The first 2 miles went so well. I was running under the shades and it felt good! As soon as I turn around to finish my last 2 miles, I felt light headed (and hungry). I was hungry!! I couldn’t get myself to run the last 2 miles. Instead, I  did the run/walk method with more walks (lol). I still did it! 

The next day was speedwork, I’ve never done such a thing! I hope I knew what I was doing. I only had an hour before I had to get ready for work to finish this task. With 400 meters in 5k pace (10 minutes for me) 12x and 400 meter jog 12x! Of course the first couple of 400 meters went fine! “I can do this”, my mind thought and I did but I didn’t have enough time so I started cutting off 400 meter jogs into 200 meters just to compensate for the time. I ended up doing the 400 meters in 5K pace 9x. I had to stop at the 9th because I had to get ready for work. I still did it! 

Oh how I love rest day, Tuesday was a rest day!

Wednesday came along and it was the tempo run! I had a good amount of sleep I believe but I still felt so restless. I ended up doing 4 miles instead of 5! Oh this week did not go as planned but I still did it! 

On Thursday, it was an easy 4 mile run. This one went okay, I felt a little bit more rested but still not the same energy that I had for week 5! I took it easy. I figured this week is just not my super star week but I’m going to look back and say at least “I still did it!

Friday was the first 8 mile run! I couldn’t do it before work so I had to wait in the afternoon. I had such a busy day at work this day and when I got home I did not think I had the right mindset to run and finish 8 miles! I was mentally tired from all the anxiety I went through at work. I took a deep breath, ate some apples, did a 10 minute meditation and went out and did the work! I finished my first 8 miles in 12:50 min pace per mile! Not bad! I ran most of it! Usually after 4 or 5 miles I start to do my run/walk method which I could still manage to do a good time but this time I didn’t feel like stopping. I just had to stop and wait for the crossing signals to turn GO! I believe this 8 mile run is my most successful run for the week! I did it and I’m thankful that I did!

It’s Saturday morning and I am up later than usual at 7 a.m. I ate breakfast, stretched  and foam rolled and got myself ready to run. I decided to run in the park to have access to more shade. I had to run the loop at the park 5x to complete the 8 miles scheduled. The first mile was hard at first, I kept telling myself, “I am tired, I am tired.” I had to change my mindset. I knew that I wasn’t gonna last very long if I kept repeating that in my head. I was able to run the first 2 miles with fine colors but the rest was a struggle. I couldn’t run the 3rd loop (4th & 5th mile). I walked all of my 5th mile and decided that I couldn’t give anymore. I was hungry and tired but I still did it! 

I don’t really know what happened for me this week. I started doubting a lot of things. Did I pick the right training method? Am I losing my motivation? Can I do it? I started thinking about things I can do to give myself, my body more time to rest, “maybe I’ll do yoga on this day instead of running?”; “maybe I’ll take this day as a rest day?”; “maybe maybe maybe!” I don’t know yet for certain what I’ll be doing but I’ll continue to look at the calendar and continue to do what I can. I still did my best! I still did it! I got the job done. Sometimes it was short, sometimes it was low but I was out there! 

These kind of days are meant to happen, right? Or is this the kind of days coaches are made for? I wish I can afford to hire a coach! I wish I could find a good running buddy that could run with me on these kind of days! But I am also grateful to myself and my body for pushing thru some tough times even when no one is out there cheering her on! Clap clap clap to myself! Lol 

I’m so funny! But that’s it for my WEEK 6 of the #HansonMarathonMethod! I hope all of you doing this method are having a wonderful time. Know that if we push through this training schedule we will be one of the toughest kiddos out there! 

Happy Running! 

Sincerely, 

Piawia!

“Every Step is a Step!” – Alexi Pappas <3

I also got new shoes this week! maybe that’s why my legs felt heavy and tired: working hard breaking it in! (LOL) Please see below my lovely Brooks Adrenaline #19! #RunHappy!

New Shoes! #Adrenaline

On to the Next Thing… Berlin Marathon 2019

I’m about to start my Marathon Training for the 2019 Berlin Marathon! 

What are my thoughts? 

  • I’m incredibly nervous that I’m going to slack off and just not do any of the training. (I did slack off a little bit for my Chicago Marathon training last year. Instead of running a lot, I did yoga a lot! LOL Well, it gave me a profound experience with yoga and I enjoyed every bit of it anyways. But this year, I’m going to run more and do yoga and other cross-training I could think of.) 
  • I’m incredibly nervous about injuring myself. (My right leg hasn’t been itself since that one Pole fitness class and I’ve been trying to recover since. It’s getting better though.) 
  • I’m incredibly nervous about Florida weather! It’s so HOT outside already! (I just need to start running in the morning which means sleeping earlier and waking up earlier. I can do that. I just need to be more consistent.) 
  • Will I be more prepared this time around? (I do still have plenty of time. I really need to stop putting so much pressure on myself coz it makes me not want to do anything at all. Writing helps, as I am going thru the lists of my thoughts, it helps to narrow them down and have a more organized focus on things that I am worrying about. lol) 
  • Should I try to PR? (I should at least try, right?. I am in better shape now than when I started training for Chicago Marathon 2018. At least, I also know what I am getting myself into so I can be more prepared and ready.)
  • I want to enjoy this race and experience even more than I enjoyed Chicago. (I’ll prepare more travel planning. I really didn’t do any of that for Chicago. So we didn’t get to see the city for the beauty it was. I can’t wait. I’m going to see so many beautiful things in Berlin and I already feel myself wanting to stay or go back soon. I know I know! I haven’t even book my flight yet but if you know me well my excitement about beautiful places starts early and last a lifetime.) (Side Note: Italy is still my favorite, as of May 17, 2019) 
  • What should I eat? How should I healthily fuel my body for the many training and the actual marathon itself? (I really want to be more educated nutrition wise. I want to not depend so much on artificial things that are unhealthy and not necessary. I encountered a really nice podcast (https://jayshetty.me/dr-daniel-amen/) that talks about our brain! It really made me think of everything that I do and what I feed my body. Yes! Listen to that Podcast! It’s pretty cool. So after listening to that podcast, I’ve been very mindful about taking care of my brain, myself! One of the things it talks about is only doing things that is good for your brain and that includes eating healthy brain boosting foods! So yeah that’s one of the things I’ve been working on.)
  • So with that in mind, Should I stop drinking alcohol again this time around like I did for my Chicago Training?  Ha! I still have 2 bottles of wine that are super unopened! lol Maybe they will be the last ones I’ll drink. IDK. Alcohol is not good for your brain and I believe not drinking helped me with my training last year because I was able to keep my body super hydrated and on the weekends where I did drink some alcohol I ended up being lethargic for a whole week, making training a bit harder. So Yeah. I think I’m leaning towards not drinking again for this training. lol 

Anyways, these are just some of my thoughts before I start my Marathon Training next week. It’s going to be amazing and exciting and also very nerve wracking! Please wish me luck! I’m going to need plenty of positive vibes! 

Thanks guys and ladies for reading my thoughts! I hope you enjoyed it! 

Please Like, Share, Follow and Leave me a Comment! 

~ Yours Truly Yours, 

Piawia!  

 

 

Some Notes: 

Positive Vibes Wednesday – 4.17.2019

I’d like to start your Wednesday with some positivism! I intend to post more positive things each week or so! 

So, here is a lovely poem, empowering women to see themselves as the wonderful phenomenal women that we are! 

Phenomenal Woman 

by Maya Angelou 

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size   
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,   
The stride of my step,   
The curl of my lips.   
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,   
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,   
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.   
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.   
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,   
And the flash of my teeth,   
The swing in my waist,   
And the joy in my feet.   
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered   
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,   
They say they still can’t see.   
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,   
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.   
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.   
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,   
The bend of my hair,   
the palm of my hand,   
The need for my care.   
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

What a wonderful day it is to be a woman! Yesterday, on my way home from work, I was listening to Oprah’s Super Soul Podcast and I ran into this one with her reading Maya Angelou’s poem. In her podcast, she reminds us to be ourselves. She reminds us that our sole goal in life is to be the best selves we can ever be! It’s funny because the chapter in the book I was reading (Girl Stop Apologizing by Rachel Hollis) said the same thing! What a coincidence?! Both Oprah’s podcast and Rachel’s book remind us that our job, especially as women, is to be ourselves, to stop asking for permission to be ourselves, to be true to ourselves. The people who are truly meant to stay and matter in our lives will love us despite them not understanding, despite them not agreeing. Even if you change, the people who truly matter should be the people who will love you for exactly who you are! 

So this is my positive vibes Wednesday! I hope you get inspired and motivated today to be who you truly are. Just be yourself! Be the bravey you want to see in the world! 

Happy Happy Wednesday! ‘Til Next Time! 

Yours Truly Yours, 

Piawia! 

<3

Notes:

  • Phenomenal Woman Poem by Maya Angelou
  • Super Soul Podcast with Oprah Winfrey
  • Girl Stop Apologizing by Rachel Hollis

10 Ways to Decrease Negativity To Create a More Positive Life!

How to decrease negativity in your life

I know that life doesn’t always turn out as planned and negativity is inevitable but there are some ways to decrease them in your life.  Many people wait for more positive things to come along but in order for more positivism to come into your life you must work for them. You must do some serious look into what we feed our minds and our spirits. We must CREATE a positive life and provide ourselves with a space where negativity doesn’t rule our lives.

So, here are some of my key ideas to decrease negativity to live more positively:

  1. Filter the people you surround yourself with.

Always be in a place where self love can exist for you is a reminder I tell myself and the people close to me. Self Love doesn’t always exist with the people we hang out with. Sometimes you have to avoid or decrease your time with people you’ve known for years. It’s ok, it’s ok to take care of yourself first. It’s ok to realize that some people bring more negativity in your life than positive and to do something about it: avoid, lessen the time spent, etc. Life is about growing and learning what’s best for you and going for it. If you surround yourself with people who you can’t truly be yourself with then that is not a place where self love can exist for you; make necessary changes and start enjoying life more.

  1. Limit your social media binge.

I’ve recently (was able to) limit my social media used. It’s been the most active I’ve been for a while. I finished a book, I’ve been working out everyday (run, gym & yoga) I’ve been eating healthier and been thinking more positively. Social Media is like an addiction. You get succumbed to scrolling and scrolling without realizing that you’ve already spent hours and hours on it. It is the easiest past time and the most unproductive feeling you’ll ever get. So, if you can, limit your time on it. You can do so by first deciding that this is something you’d like to do & then finding ways to do so. For example, you can put a time limit to your social media use, you can just check it when you’re close to a computer (vs on your phone), you can check your social media every other day, etc. There are many ways to do this but you have to decide and then be firm and consistent with your decision.

  1. Avoid negative media: tv shows, radio stations, music etc.

Sometimes I find myself listening to a radio station where the DJ is pressuring the other DJ to do something she/he doesn’t want to do or like shows that make you sad or anxious, avoid that. Of course, everything is preference but if you find yourself sad and anxious all the time, check what you’ve been watching and listening to, it really makes a difference in your mood,  your day and just your life in general.

  1. Meditate or Pray.

Meditating and praying are often perceived as being religious, being too spiritual, etc and many people nowadays are usually afraid to be labeled as such. But, for me, meditating and praying can be however and whatever you’d like it to be; it could be religious or not; it could be spiritual or not. It’s up to you and no one else should be able to tell you what it is but yourself.

  1. Read as many books as you can.

I feel that reading changed my life so much.  With reading, I was able to learn so much more about myself. I started learning why I feel certain things and really got myself out of myself. I have come a long way but I’m sure there are still more to tackle and learn. Reading gives you the opportunity to explore parts of yourself, parts of the world and create imagination beyond the things you already know.

  1. Be thankful & proud of your progress no matter how small or big it may seem.

I cannot emphasize this enough (to myself, lol). Sometimes, you forget to be kind to yourself. One of the things I always hear from running coaches on my Nike app is being gentle to yourself. Be a kind coach, like how you would coach and be there for your friends, that’s how you should be to yourself first and foremost! So yes, celebrate every step and decrease (or if possible, eliminate) negative self talk!

  1. Find a hobby; something you can focus yourself with.

I find that people with a hobby or something to focus their minds to are very happy people. Giving yourself something to look forward to in each and everyday. For example, mine is running, I find myself looking for a run whenever things are tough vs. just sitting around and waiting for the stress to pass by. You can read a book, go for a walk etc. There are many hobbies out there that can help keep your mind at bay. You just have to find what is the right one for you.

  1. Learn to be alone and love your own company.

This one is one of the most liberating experience for me, enjoying my own company. I used to have FOMO all the time and it made it harder for me to create a positive space for myself. Realizing this, I set out a goal to one day be comfortable being alone and then boom: I was watching movies alone, dining alone and enjoying my very own company. I no longer depended on people to do things with me. In turn, I felt that I became more suitable to be around people. I also set higher standards for the energy that is around me. I am more open and confident about myself because I know that I can be happy just being by myself and my enjoyment no longer depended on whether or not I have company but depended on how I feel inside.

  1. Remind yourself that the things people do and say that hurts you are not a reflection of who you are but a reflection of how they feel about themselves & vice versa.

If you feel negatively towards others, there might be a lingering emotions or pains that you need to look into and work thru! This one is still very hard for me sometimes. It’s easier to blame that there is something wrong with other people, to not look within but it is a must. Looking within (no matter how hard it may be) gives you an opportunity to heal and ultimately living a more positive life! No more victim mode and more working on myself mode!

  1. Last but the not least, create and repeat POSITIVE “I AM” affirmations.

I wanted to include “I AM” affirmations because I am learning that whatever comes out of your mouth is what who you become! As I said before, NO MORE NEGATIVE SELF TALK, in exchange, you may start with POSITIVE SELF TALK instead! Start your day by saying positive things about yourself: I AM LOVE, I AM WORTHY, I AM STRENGTH, etc. What you say about yourself is important and it should always be filled with love towards yourself because self love ultimately leads to a more positive life!

Continue reading 10 Ways to Decrease Negativity To Create a More Positive Life!

How to be more consistent with yourself….

March 11, 2019: Today I felt refreshed, oh what a wonderful feeling.

I haven’t been myself lately and it completely took me off guard. I was super euphoric at some point and then bam I was kind of sad.

I want to study mental health more. I want to find out different ways to manage these kind of setbacks.

One of the things I keep hearing from my S.O., people I follow on IG, on YouTube and from people I admire and look up to is the word CONSISTENCY.

Oh you want to start a blog? a vlog? A business? You want to run faster and longer? The answer is consistency.

Being consistent just means showing up, doing what you said you’re going to do even on times you don’t feel like doing it. It’s fighting the curse of excuses and consistently winning over them.

In the beginning of this year, I set out to write something everyday, as much as I can. In the month of January, I was able to fulfill this goal. I wrote every night and I was able to post blogs and share them with my friends and my family. But then it got real. It got to the point where the thoughts I was writing were thoughts I did not feel comfortable enough to share, so I stopped. I was getting the gizz of it all. People were starting to follow me and at some point my page was visited more than 100 times. Why did I stop? I was so courageous and brave, I bought my domain and made my page official but then I stopped? Again, why did I stop? In the month of February, I barely wrote. I posted 2 entries on my page and didn’t share it with friends and family like I did on my other posts.

What stopped me? And what stops a lot of people from fulfilling their goals, their dreams and ultimately living the life they desire?

FEAR! For this question, Fear is the answer. A lot of the excuses that we make up are created to justify our fears. Fear of failing, fear of being ridiculed or not taken seriously, fear of judgment and many other forms of fear. Yes, fear comes in many forms and many times those fears create excuses that stop people from being consistent and firm with their plans and their ideas that ultimately prevents their consistency, leaving them stuck and afraid to move forward.

I set out to be braver this year round and my fear still got to me even with superb support system, being it my family, friends and most especially my S.O. I’ve never felt so supported and yet I still let fear hinder my consistency and most specially my growth.

Fear is truly one of the greatest enemy of consistency.

So how do you fight your fears to become more consistent with your words and your goals?

I have some ideas! I am willing to share them. They have been working for me for the past several weeks and I hope these ideas and concepts will help you be more consistent with achieving your goals:

  1. Knowing that fear is inevitable. With this in mind, I set myself up to success when I accept that fear will be present. I wonder and ponder on what might I be fearing to make up the excuses? My S.O. tells me, “don’t say you know when you really don’t.” You really have to dig deep sometimes. One of the things that helped me thru figuring out what I’m fearing is writing. I write the question, “why am I afraid of ________?” & then answer it. There are times where I would end up writing, “I don’t really fear this” at the end of my writing that leads me to realizing that the fear I have is not true and continue on to do what I set myself out to do.
  2. Lessening the pressure you put on yourself. I created a challenge to run 2 miles a day from February 11th to February 28th. I was fearful I would fail but one of the things that kept me going was reminding myself to not put so much pressure on myself. When I set up my run for the day, I quietly remind myself that “there’s no pressure & to do what I can.” Keeping that in mind put so much ease on my runs making my runs more enjoyable. I decided to share this journey on social media that ultimately led to Friends joining me on the challenge and they asked me what the rules were and I said, “No rules, No pressure.” I’ve been running for 32 days, as of March 14, 2019, way pass the time frame I had originally set out to do. I feel good and I don’t feel drained. My friends are super grateful and are happy they started the challenge too. If I had let fear set in and decided to not share my challenge, I probably wouldn’t have enjoyed it much and my friends wouldn’t have joined me. I set aside my fear of being ridiculed and my fear of failure. Setting them aside gave me the opportunity to share the joy of accomplishments with my friends and inspire people to be more active too. Not having the pressure I put on myself made myself more accountable and motivated.
  3. Be more organized. Try your best to be more organized, with your thoughts, your plans and whatever else is in your life. One night, I decided to create an online calendar, as my S.O. suggested {I talk to him a lot}. At first, I was stubborn and thought “No way!” but as soon as I started that calendar, a whole lot of thoughts and worries went out the window. I guess you carry these things on your mind too, the plans, the events, the commitments and many more. As I released these things to put on my calendar, my mind felt at ease, I don’t have to messed up things & I don’t have to miss any events. I can confidently plan, confidently think of other things, confidently focus on other things knowing that I am organized with my days. I also created tasked that I have been checking off each day that makes me feel accomplished vs it just being another day. Organizing can come in many forms too. The key idea of organizing is to have a clear path where your thoughts are not scattered and ultimately alleviate some of your fears of messing up or missing things, events or commitments.
  4. Trust yourself more. I remind myself this all the time. Part of my anxiety battles were brought about because of my self mistrust. For a while, I didn’t trust myself (at all). I’ve come a long way and realizing that Loving Yourself is Trusting Yourself changed my life {for not only the better but for the best}. Even if you fail, even if you make a mistake, even if people are against it, you have to trust that you did the best you could with whatever resources were presented and were available to you. We are all human, we are wired to fail & wired to overcome them too but when we let our fears fight our battles we really don’t get too far. Being brave and fearless can only happen if you give yourself the trust you deserve! Trust that your talented, Trust that you have something important and meaningful to say. Trust that you can inspire. Trust that you are a wonderful human being. Trust that you can overcome all your fears and Trust that you can be consistent with your plans. Just trust and believe in yourself.
  5. “Replace can’t with maybe.” by Alexi Pappas. There’s no other way to word this. I hear and read a lot about the idea that what you say and what you believe to be is actually what happens and what becomes of you. So every time I say things like “I’m not fast”, “I’m not a writer”, or “I can’t do this”, I replace them with more positive thoughts (when I catch it). I am more aware of the thoughts and words I say about myself. I remind myself of words like “not yet”, inspired by Charlie Rocket, to remind myself that there’s always opportunities for growth and even though it feels and seem unattainable, if you ignore those fears, there’s always a chance: a chance to grow, a chance to be faster, a chance to be better, a chance to be who you want yourself to be. So be inspired, follow people who started from where you think you are and witness them face their fears and fulfill the things you dream of to remind yourself that there is always a chance to “replace can’t with maybe.
  6. Another one that I [try to] do and would like to share is to celebrate every accomplishments. It doesn’t matter how small they are, those accomplishments are meant to be celebrated and be proud of. Small things could lead to big things. The little more that you do the closer you get to your goals, the BIG Things. I feel that by celebrating every accomplishments makes being consistent more enjoyable and less pressured. You finished a book, celebrate! You read 3 pages of a book, celebrate! Be grateful for yourself, for trying and for facing your fears! Celebrate yourself for getting up every morning and be grateful for being able to and being given the opportunity just to do something, anything. Celebrate the idea that you are capable and that you have all the opportunities in the world to do what you love you just have to face your fears!

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Forgive, Forget & Love.

January 13, 2019

Today, I realized that I want to write about so many things. As I am starting to type I couldn’t think of putting all my thoughts into one passage. This weekend blessed me with a God Daughter, a 13.1 Mile Finish, a Bullseye, a Spotless Clean Car {for my Dad} & a moment with God I haven’t had in a while, all of which made me grateful for life itself!

 

In this blog, I want to write about my Dad. I’ve been meaning to write about this because this is so close to my heart. MY DAD HAD A STROKE. For the very first time in my life my actual fear happened. I always worried about my parents getting sick and worry about what I would do &  what would happen & then it happens. I was overwhelmed with worry & confusion.

With this incident, I learned a lot about myself and what it means to have a family. You see, not many people know this about me, I was losing faith in mine. The day before my Dad had the stroke, I was angry. Angry at the world for not having my back. I preached and I preached about believing in the Universe but yet I was angry with myself for not trusting that my family had my back. My anger and grudge towards my family caused me to distant myself from them for a while. Of course, they did not know this, it’s not their fault. It was something inside me, I know that my family was there deep inside but the surface part of me was so broken I couldn’t see it myself.  

When the stroke happened to my Dad all of my anger and resentments went away. None of those stupid things mattered. I am just happy he is here with us today. I feel like my family and I are much stronger now than ever.

When that happened so many doors opened up for me. My heart was healed and my mind was clearer: none of those things are more important than loving my family no matter what.

When that happened I realized how short life truly is. I realized how much could change in a day, in an hour, in a minute, in seconds.

When that happened I realized to be grateful for what I have, for what is, for what was and for what is there to come.

When that happened I realized how important it is to learn to love others unconditionally by learning to love myself unconditionally. A different view in life came to me telling me the right way to love someone {I have my Mom to thank for that}.

When that happened I was faced with the reality that I have been selfish.

When that happened I was face with the reality that no one is perfect and that everyone is just doing the best that they could.

When that happened I realized how much my family means the world to me.

When that happened I realized that I was so broken and inflicting all my wounds to my family.

There are many many more things I learned in just that one day. That one moment that changed my life. That one moment that made me want to cherish my time with my parents, to cherish moments of joy and laughter with my family. That one moment that made me realized that I had to heal for others. That one moment that changed my life is the moment I thought I could lose my FATHER. (He is ok, by the way)

“It takes us losing something, someone, ourselves or time to truly appreciate what we once took for granted. I don’t want loss to be the eye opening moment anymore. Why are we so blind to good things?” – Kyle Fasel

Learn to heal yourself instead of inflicting your pain onto others. Learn to heal yourself so that you may cherish the most important people in your life the right way. Learn to heal yourself so that you won’t have any regrets. Learn to heal yourself so that you may help others heal themselves. Learn to heal yourself because you are the only one that could.

My love for my family is an epitome of trust, acceptance (for what is) & forgiveness. Without them my world will never be the same.

 

FORGIVING OUR PARENTS, OUR FRIENDS, OURSELVES

“The holiest of all spots on earth is where an ancient hatred has become a present love.” – A Return to Love, Marianne Williamson.

As always, Thank you for taking a moment to read my thoughts.

Yours Truly Yours,

Piawia.